I’m about to impart the secret to life. NBD.
My cousin Mike has a PHD in physics. He was a Postdoctoral Researcher at Harvard, is now an Assistant Professor and Academic Counsellor in the Department of Physics at Guelph university, and has a hilarious, popular YouTube channel dedicated to teaching physics.
As my friend Carley Simandl would say, “he’s no slouch.”
Don’t worry. He’s a nice genius with social skills.
He’s a great guy, and can easily traverse the divide between chit chat about the law of universal gravitation and fart jokes with the constancy of the speed of light, so we get along quite nicely. I hang out on the fart jokes side of things obviously, but he’ll intellectually “slum it” for the chance to revel in some slapstick humour with me.
We always got along (except for when he bullied me mercilessly in elementary school), and as we got older we developed a big bond through parenting.
Now keeping in mind that this guy’s blood is basically made of academia, he had some questions about my decision to homeschool. We had a conversation about it, as grown ups do, and agreed to disagree. And he summed up the conversation with a statement that has become a slogan in my life.
A PhD gave me the fool-proof, scientific formula to good parenting.
This bonafide genius gave me the key to parenting, and I am about to share it with you. Lean in, because I’m going to whisper it. He told me that they key to reaching the pinnacle of your parenting potential is:
You’ve got to want to do it.
That’s it. Now you have no excuses.
It became a mantra.
The way it played out in my parenting was whenever I ran into a difficult situation – a toddler meltdown, a difficult emotion to talk through or a toothbrushing strike – I would literally whisper to myself, “You’ve got to want to do it,” or as it was eventually shortened to: Yagoddawannadoit.
And it’s important to note that in its application, the essence of it isn’t only do the things you want to do. It’s more, you’re doing it anyway, find a way to want to do it.
When you can find a way to want to do something, it flows. Maybe I don’t want to create a system around my onboarding of clients. But if I do, then suddenly I have streamlined something I hate doing, making it shorter and hand-off-able. THAT, I wannado. So the task flows from start to finish.
When we can put the cart before the horse in this scenario, OH BOY that’s the fun stuff. So when there is something you WANT to do, you owe it to everyone on the planet to lean in and do it.
Since we’re already talking science…
I hate to break it to everyone, but Sir Isaac Newton (the GOAT of physicists) didn’t get plunked on the head by an apple.
In Memoirs of Sir Isaac Newton’s Life by Willam Stuckeley, he’s quoted as saying,
“After dinner, the weather being warm, we went into the garden, & drank tea under the shade of some apple trees… he told me, he was just in the same situation, as when formerly, the notion of gravitation came into his mind…. occasion’d by the fall of an apple, as he sat in a contemplative mood.”
YOU: Yeah, so?
ME: That means that our understanding of gravity 300 years later, started by someone being in a “contemplative mood” and being interested enough in what sparked his interest to pursue it!
That guy saw apples falling off trees all the damn time, and then once he was like, “yeah why tho?” And by following his interest he changed our understanding of the world for good.
You HAVE to WANT to do it.
There’s a LOT that goes into being an entrepreneur and it’s often said it’s not a life for everyone. But could it be? With droves of people leaving the workforce for greener pastures or just for the sake of medical freedom, could we bulldoze the North American marketplace and replace big box stores with small businesses?
I believe we could. And I think the key is to get the secret out: There is no secret. It’s work. There is no code or password or secret handshake. It’s just work. And the key to making work meaningful no matter what you’re doing?
When you pass up an opportunity to pursue your passion, what are you missing out on? What is your circle missing out on? Your community, the world, the universe … what could we miss by you not trying?
It’s not all going to be roses, we know that. But if you can find a way to enjoy dealing with the thorns, the roses will come.
Have an amazing week!
P.S. Don’t let tech get in between you and pursuing your passion! If you’re hitting a roadblock in my field of passion, reach out! Cuziwannaddoit.